How long should it take to get over someone?
Let’s start by saying that just about everyone single is getting over someone. Some are getting over people they never even dated, other people are getting over girlfriends or boyfriends that dated for a few short months or a few years.
Everyone gets over trauma at their own rate, but some people I know are getting over people from several years ago. I think they also fit into the overly sensitive category as well. Should it really take 3 years to get over someone you dated for 2 months? It took me about 1 year to get over someone I dated for a summer, and I was embarrassed that it took that long. Two months is not long enough to really get to know someone, especially since we didn’t spend that much time together. After awhile, I just got fed up with myself and I stopped talking about. I still felt hurt and rejected, but after awhile I said to myself that I really have to force myself to get over this.
After listening to people I know say that several years is too long to get over someone, I think everyone needs to draw a line. When you think that someone dumping you is worst than someone you know dying, it’s time to put everything in perspective. There’s a certain level of ridiculousness in all this dwelling. I found that it’s easier to get over someone when you keep yourself busy.
It should take longer to get over a death, than a breakup. I’m sure there are pills for this kind of thing.
Everyone gets over trauma at their own rate, but some people I know are getting over people from several years ago. I think they also fit into the overly sensitive category as well. Should it really take 3 years to get over someone you dated for 2 months? It took me about 1 year to get over someone I dated for a summer, and I was embarrassed that it took that long. Two months is not long enough to really get to know someone, especially since we didn’t spend that much time together. After awhile, I just got fed up with myself and I stopped talking about. I still felt hurt and rejected, but after awhile I said to myself that I really have to force myself to get over this.
After listening to people I know say that several years is too long to get over someone, I think everyone needs to draw a line. When you think that someone dumping you is worst than someone you know dying, it’s time to put everything in perspective. There’s a certain level of ridiculousness in all this dwelling. I found that it’s easier to get over someone when you keep yourself busy.
It should take longer to get over a death, than a breakup. I’m sure there are pills for this kind of thing.
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posted by Dating 101 at
9:55 AM
2 Comments:
Actually I think it may be easier to get over death. With death there is no choice in the matter. When someone breaks up with you, they're still there, and the feeling of rejection only increases and delays it.
Plus it depends on what you mean by "get over it".
I'll always miss my ex wife...but i'm over it.
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Damn It Anyway, at 7:26 PM
damn it anyway has a good point. It depends on how the relationship ended. When you're the dumpee, it takes longer. When it's a situation out of both people's hands (relocation), it takes a little less time. When you're the dumper, it takes much less because there's a sense of relief, even if part of you misses that person.
I heard once that it should take half the length of the relationship to get over it. I wouldn't take that too seriously. Dr. Phil probably came up with it.
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theresa, at 10:27 AM
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